How To Kiss advises caution with someone new or someone you know little about, because it is easy to think that someone is fine when you know little about them - and they may really be useless or even dangerous. But do not let that put you off getting to know new people completely, just be careful.
If you want to get to know someone or are looking for someone to date, then there are lots of places that you might meet people - where you study or work, around where you live, where you spend your leisure time or even on the internet or through dating agencies. If you are stuck to find that real soulmate then it is a good idea to follow an interest - if you are interested in yoga, chess or sealife then sign-up to a yoga, chess or sealife class or club !! Having an active interest or hobby also makes you a lot more interesting and gives you something different to talk about. (But try not talking too much just about one hobby)
And it will go best if you first get clear on why really you want a new friend. So is it ;
1. to have friendly company and friendly fun. (better than hanging out with a silly gang ?)
2. to have regular sex fun. (but some double-date to get more, especially the married ?)
3. to have children. (especially if middle-age approaching ?)
4. for money. (if honest as a paid escort, if dishonest as a thief ?)
5. for love. (the ideal ?)
Now you may start with having one of these reasons only, and that may change when you get to know a new friend better. But you will do best to show yourself right for what you want - if you only want friendly company then do not say you mostly like sex because that will only attract those who mainly want that.
If you are looking to get to know someone then it will help if you can try to improve your dress a bit, new shoes or a new hair style or whatever.
When it does come to an actual new person that you want to make friends with, if you are a bit unsure about how to get to know them, they may also be unsure. Just get friendly, without thinking about dating, first with a simple smile and a simple word like 'Hi'. Go slowly, and in all cases try to find out a bit about a person before considering befriending or dating them.
Try to find out if they do any stuff that may make them a bad friend or a bad date - do they fight, drink, lie, steal or hang with a gang ? Of course if they lie then they will probably say that they are none of these when they are ! When you find someone who is not a louse and may be worth you dating, then try to find out and learn about at least one of their interests - be it a sport, a band, a TV show or whatever. It can certainly help you if you feel stuck with how to date them.
When you do get to know someone, you may after a time feel unsure if they have gotten to like you only as a friend or maybe as more. It is no good being unsure, so do something decisive. Invite them for dinner or something that sounds like a date, and see where that goes.
To ask someone for a first date, or to encourage them to ask you, it is generally best first to just get friendly slowly. Say 'Hi', smile, say 'Damn I'm late', say 'God I'm freezing', say 'My football team is doing crap'. Just get friendly without thinking about your dating ideas. If slowly some talking gets going, then they will ask you for a date or you will begin to feel easier about asking them for a date. But start just by getting friendly and NOT thinking about dating. Mention any interests or hobbies you have and any of your good points - eg I am a good cook or a good listener. But do not greatly over-sell yourself by lying that you are richer than you are or by promising a 'Rose Garden' life. And do not touch before a date unless they first touch you, in which case you might briefly touch their back or elbow only. To get some idea of how a girl/boy might respond to you asking them for a first date, you could try something like "Tell me what you would say if Justin Beiber/Selena Gomez asked you out on a date ?" (Justin Beiber is a young rich male celebrity currently dating the young rich female celebrity Selena Gomez)
So now you know someone a bit that you would like to date, but how do you date someone for the first time ? If they have not asked you for a date then you must ask them. It may often be best to start small, with a 'Want to catch a coffee or coke ?' - or bigger with a 'There's a great film or show on Friday, like to go ?'. If you keep it specific, and avoid 'Would you like to date ?' then you are more likely to get a yes or to leave open a second chance.
PS. There are some different issues if you prefer to use a dating agency, including online dating, so for that first see our Love Online section. And if you are concerned about using face makeup, then you may find the article below helpful ;
Follow this advice to quickly and easily change your image -
If you do not use foundation we recommend you acquire one which suits your skin type. You will see how your skin becomes totally uniform, with your face ready for the colour to go on!
If you already use foundation, try using corrector (if the product is light enough) over the foundation, to add light to your gaze. Smooth it out with your fingertips to remove excess product. You will be shedding off the years!
Try out a different colour eye-shadow, one that brings out the colour of your eyes.
If you have had the same mascara for over three months, then it is time for a change. Acquire a different one, unless you are really pleased with the one you have. Try out one which lengthens your lashes, or thickens them, and remember to always double-layer it.
Are you putting the blusher on correctly? Follow the shape of your cheekbone to get it right, smile and apply the colour with the brush, then blend it with a loose powder brush (normally thicker than rouge ones), for a natural finish.
And why not, unless your skin is very rosy, put on a touch of pink rouge (you can also use a pale rosewood colour shadow) in the center of your cheek. This will automatically bring a different touch to your look.
If you never wear make up on your lips - start now ! Which colour will flatter you most?
- the one closest to the colour of your lips, in a darker or lighter tone.
Put transparent lip gloss on. This is very fashionable and is perfect for daytime make up.
About the Author: Article by Asuncion Parra Llorente a Beauty coach and founder and professional Make Up teacher at the Make Up school Elite Make Up. (www.elitemakeup.com or www.makeup-artist-world.com).
IF you are thinking about using the internet to get to know someone, then maybe use here half-free carefully ;
But do note that general friends blogging websites like these are not centred on making new real friends or on dating, but are more for those wanting to listen and to talk on the internet only. And under-18s especially may not yet know themselves who they really are and so their words should not be taken as all seriously true even if they are trying to be honest. And many people on-line are tricksters of course - but there are some better general and specialised dating websites.
NOTE : being careful about making friends on the internet is especially needed by under 18s, who should always tell a parent who may be helpful. Secret friends are fishy !! Even if you have NOT told a parent about them, it is a good idea to tell a new internet friend that you HAVE - that will probably get rid of the worst crooks. If you want to meet an internet friend for the first time, you should always have a relative or friend with you - and say that you will when you are fixing a first meeting !! See our Love Online.
How To Kiss advice is for boy, girl, man, woman, single, divorced, separated, widowed, single parent, teenage or elderly.